As I crawl into bed after a long day, shoving my half-folded clothes off the edge of my bed, I think about the term “flawsome”. I’m not sure if this is a recent word-vention (see I can do it too!) or if it’s been around for a while, but in light of my day/year/life I think the term applies to me quite well. Actually, I think the nature of the term means that it can apply to everyone quite well.
The term “flawsome” basically means an individual who embraces their own flaws and knows they’re awesome regardless. Where can I sign up? Because the “embracing of the flaws” I can handle like most adults, but knowing that I am awesome regardless is not exactly what I feel daily. Granted, I say this now because this week has thrown me into a funk like no other. Be-lated birthday blues perhaps? Happy Be-lated Birthday! Happy Be-lated Birthday … blues? Possible.
So, my Moxies, how do we embrace this “flawsome” in all its self-accepting glory? I have five ways that I think will help:
- Find your tribe.
Everyone needs their own type of tribe to hang with. Not everyone is going to value your company the same. The world is a big place with lots of people in it and some of them may find you really, really annoying. This is okay. Find some people you can be yourself around and spoil them with your presence. Yes, liking yourself and your flaws is the key point of “flawsome”, but it helps to have other people who like you too.
- Take care of yourself every day.
I have bad days like everyone. One thing that gets me going, or at least feeling motivated enough to crawl out of bed, is getting ready in the morning or working out. Lots of days I have my outfit all picked out the night before so I don’t need to think about it at all. Hair, make-up, funky outfit or a 20 minute session with my new work-out dvd (Jillian Michael’s 30 Day Shred). I feel a lot better afterwards. The make-up hides the bag under my eyes, and the work-out makes me feel more powerful and less stressed out. How you take care of yourself may vary from what I do, the point is that you need to take time for yourself. You can’t drink from and empty cup.
- Adore the faults you love and change the ones you don’t.
I have flaws that I like: I talk too much and I’m really perky/ditsy at times. I also have faults that I really don’t like: I have a hard time standing up for myself and I tend to be too squirrel-brained. It’s really hard for me to focus on a task and complete it in one sitting. I have so many half finished projects just hanging out in my basement right now collecting dust. I want to be more focused on completing the tasks I begin, before squirreling onto the next one. Embracing “flawsome” totally means being happy with your flaws, but it doesn’t mean your immune to self reflection and positive changes. In the end, it only makes you a better person.
- Recognize what makes you feel happy and light, and what makes you feel bogged down and sad.
Behaviors, jobs, friends and even family members can dump negativity into your life. Recognize when you are feeling really happy and content versus not. My ultimate level of contentment comes when I’m writing on my website. When I take a break from writing I start to feel listless and bored. It’s hard to like yourself and your flaws when your stuck at a job, or with habits, that don’t suit who you are and what you need. You are an adult and you have every opportunity to work towards a better life.
- Step outside yourself and get perspective.
Society, narcissism, and technology have brought us to a point where we need to take selfies at every turn of events. Here is me drinking coffee. Here is me working out today. Here is me eating a salad (actually, I love food pictures…keep ’em coming). I think if we didn’t focus so much on putting ourselves out there to be judged on social media, maybe we wouldn’t feel so… well… judged.
I often wonder if social media magnifies flaws and insecurities that wouldn’t feel so prevalent otherwise. Perhaps we spend too much time comparing and competing these days? Maybe the most beneficial thing we can do to accept our minor flaws is to stop thinking about them all together, and work on fixing the flaws in the world instead. Put together a bake sale for the homeless shelter or animal shelter, pick up garbage at your park, or join a 5k to raise awareness for a cause or illness.
- Find your tribe.
In reality, the term “flawsome” is just a catchy phrase for good, old fashion, self-acceptance. Embracing who you are as a person gives other people the courage to do the same. The time we spend judging ourselves could be better spent doing other things. So readers, back to you? What some “flaws” you have that you wouldn’t change for the world? What are some “flaws” you’d like to fix? Leave me some comments below!